{"id":509,"date":"2013-03-18T19:53:54","date_gmt":"2013-03-18T19:53:54","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/bizexteam.com\/?p=509"},"modified":"2023-07-04T16:21:09","modified_gmt":"2023-07-04T16:21:09","slug":"review-of-the-first-six-tips-on-effective-communication","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bizexteam.com\/index.php\/2013\/03\/18\/review-of-the-first-six-tips-on-effective-communication\/","title":{"rendered":"Review of the first six tips on effective communication"},"content":{"rendered":"<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: 16px; color: #444444; line-height: 24px;\"><a href=\"http:\/\/bizexteam.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/03\/Communicate-1-1-1.png\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-medium wp-image-524\" alt=\"Communicate-1\" src=\"http:\/\/bizexteam.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/03\/Communicate-1-1-300x225.png\" width=\"300\" height=\"225\" srcset=\"https:\/\/bizexteam.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/03\/Communicate-1-1-300x225.png 300w, https:\/\/bizexteam.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/03\/Communicate-1-1.png 402w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a>We have now worked through half of the \u201cTwelve Tips for Effective Communication\u201d series! Because of last year\u2019s extensive work demands, it has taken us some time to get to this point. So, before delving into the next communication tip, I thought it would be good to review the key points we have discussed to this point.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">In my earlier blog posts we have worked through six tips. Here is a summary of the discussions so far.<\/p>\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\">Tip One: Have a clear goal in mind for your communication<span class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: 16px; color: #444444; line-height: 24px;\">\u00a0<\/span><\/h3>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><i>Tip O<\/i><span class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px;\"><span class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: 16px; color: #444444; font-family: Georgia, 'Bitstream Charter', serif; line-height: 24px;\"><i>ne<\/i> focused on <i>setting a goal for your communication.<\/i> I suggested that you ask yourself questions such as:<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<ul style=\"text-align: justify;\">\n<li>W<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-523 alignleft\" style=\"color: #444444; font-family: Georgia, 'Bitstream Charter', serif; line-height: 1.5; cursor: default; display: inline; max-width: 100%; height: auto; margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; margin-left: 20px; margin-right: 20px;\" alt=\"Communicate-2\" src=\"http:\/\/bizexteam.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/03\/Communicate-2-1-200x300.png\" width=\"200\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/bizexteam.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/03\/Communicate-2-1-200x300.png 200w, https:\/\/bizexteam.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/03\/Communicate-2-1.png 276w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 200px) 100vw, 200px\" \/>hat is the reason for your communication?<\/li>\n<li>Do you hope to surface and resolve an issue that is of concern to you?<\/li>\n<li>Do you want to build a relationship with the person?<\/li>\n<li>Do you hope to repair an injured relationship?<\/li>\n<li>Are you seeking a favor?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: 16px; color: #444444; font-family: Georgia, 'Bitstream Charter', serif; line-height: 24px;\">I explained that the approach and content of your communication may vary radically depending on the goal of the communication, so it is important to have a clear understanding in your own mind about what you hope to achieve in the dialogue.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\">Tip Two: Have anoutcome in mind and a plan to get there.<\/h3>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Once we have a clear goal in mind for our communication, in <i>Tip Two<\/i>, I discussed the importance of <i>planning your communication to be as effective as possi<\/i><i>ble. <\/i>\u00a0I discussed five key factors that, among others, are often important key elements\u00a0to effectively planning a communication. These were:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<ol>\n<li>Knowing who needs to participate and why.<\/li>\n<li>Understanding the issue and framing it in a relatable way.<\/li>\n<li>Knowing yourself and the needs and concerns you seek to address.<\/li>\n<li>Knowing the other participants and their needs, issues, and concerns.<\/li>\n<li>Having ideas for how to meet your needs while allowing the other participants to meet their needs.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<\/ul>\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\">Tip Three: Understand Interpersonal Styles.<\/h3>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">The third communication tool I discussed was understanding the style of the person which whom you are communicating.\u00a0 Several current and future postings are closely related to this overarching topic<i>. Tip Three<\/i> focused on gaining awareness the style with which the listener prefers to communication and to make decisions. I explained that each of us has deeply engrained preferences for word and metaphor choice, pace of communication, accompanying body language, non-verbal supplements to our communication. In <i>Tip Three<\/i>, we looked at problem solving or decision-making styles.\u00a0 With the caveat noted that individuals are far too complex to be easily categorized in boxes and labels, I explained that some non-diagnostic indicators of a person\u2019s communication preferences they can be very useful. I talked about some categories used by some instruments, that identify personal styles, such as \u201cdrivers,\u201d \u201cempaths,\u201d \u201ccreators,\u201d and \u201csystemizers.\u201d I explained that naturally, the lines between these simplistic labels can be blurred and people are far too complex to fit neatly into a single category every time.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">I discussed the advantages of your own style and the style of another whom you seek to influence and ways to best work with your style to influence others working with their own style.<\/p>\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\">Tip Four: Listen Comprehensively \u2013 the Many Levels of Listening<\/h3>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><a href=\"http:\/\/bizexteam.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/03\/Communicate-3-1-1.png\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-522 alignright\" style=\"margin-left: 25px; margin-right: 25px;\" alt=\"Communicate-3\" src=\"http:\/\/bizexteam.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/03\/Communicate-3-1-214x300.png\" width=\"214\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/bizexteam.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/03\/Communicate-3-1-214x300.png 214w, https:\/\/bizexteam.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/03\/Communicate-3-1.png 264w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 214px) 100vw, 214px\" \/><\/a>In <i>Tip Four<\/i>, I discussed the many levels of listening and suggested that, rather than turning up the volume of speaking we turn up our listening sensitivity. I explained that listening involves more than just hearing. In that post, I focused on comprehensive listening: listening in the broadest and most powerful sense.\u00a0 This concept expanding listening from one of simply hearing another, to one of receiving information from another in the broadest and more informing and enabling sense. \u00a0I discussed some of the components of \u201ccomprehensive listening.\u201d Among the key components of comprehensive listening we will discuss here are listening for the speaker\u2019s:<\/p>\n<ul style=\"text-align: justify;\">\n<ul>\n<li>Verbal content and expressed needs;<\/li>\n<li>Emotional content;<\/li>\n<li>Non verbal content;<\/li>\n<li>Style, and conscious and subconscious metaphor use; and<\/li>\n<li>Barriers to trust and rapport and opportunities to bridge them through congruence.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/ul>\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\">Tip Five: Communication is Not Just Speaking<\/h3>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">In <i>Tip Five<\/i>, I focused on another area of communication, which was a corollary to <i>Tip Four<\/i>.\u00a0 I explained that just as we should <i>listen<\/i> for all sorts of information when we are involved in an important communication, we also have the opportunity to use an amazing variety of tools to enhance the effectiveness of our communication. This post focused on the subject of enhancing communication using verbal and non-verbal techniques to enhance our communications and offered only an overview of a number of skills that we will explore in <i>Tips Seven through Twelve<\/i>.\u00a0 These included:<\/p>\n<ul style=\"text-align: justify;\">\n<ul>\n<li>Proxemics, or understanding how our use of space and proximity to others affects how we come across.<\/li>\n<li>Framing and the effective use of word choice, archetypes, and metaphors to connect with your listener.<\/li>\n<li>Neural linguistic programming, or the awareness and use of extremely deep-rooted word choices and learning styles to create a link with the listener.<\/li>\n<li>Haptics or the delicate art of using touch in <i>appropriate situations.<\/i><\/li>\n<li>Mirroring, matching, pacing and leading both verbally and non-verbally to create subconscious rapport<\/li>\n<li>A variety of other tips to help build trust and rapport and make connecting and communicating with another easier.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/ul>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">In this post I also urged readers to try listening to and observing the communication styles and tools discussed so far when communicating with another in an important communication.<\/p>\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\">Tip Six: Study the underlying needs of the other person and their motivation for dialogue.<\/h3>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">The blog discussion in <i>Tip Six<\/i> focused on the important and often-overlooked communication skill of seeking full understanding of what the other person needs (or perhaps should expect) out of their interaction with you.\u00a0\u00a0 Why <i>should <\/i>the other person want to help?\u00a0 What do they gain from the interaction?\u00a0 I suggested that when engaging in an important conversation, one might want to spend some time at the outset of the conversation to learn about the person and what they might need from you in return and I explained that when the needs of the other are considered, one can build an attitude of mutual trust, support and partnership. The relationships built during simple interactions often pay great dividends in later interactions, with the rapport and mutual understanding making it much easier to acquire support in subsequent interactions.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">BJM\u00a0 3\/18\/2013<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>We have now worked through half of the \u201cTwelve Tips for Effective Communication\u201d series! Because of last year\u2019s extensive work demands, it has taken us some time to get to this point. 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